By: Victoria Clark
There are thousands of quotes and poems about love. Some make us feel like love is always a grandiose feeling consisting primarily of passion and fervor, while others have more of a cynical take on the power of love and its emotional toll. However, in my opinion, there is one quote in particular that rings especially true when describing what it means to “love” someone. Antoine de Saint-Exupery, the famed author of the beloved book, The Little Prince, describes love and says that “Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”
Although lust and physical attraction may be the emotions that initially connect two people, many of us know that with true love, these feeling will only take us so far. In order to succeed as a couple, two people must also share a mutual respect and admiration for one another and Jacqueline and Matthew are, in my view, a couple that embodies the qualities of a genuine, honest, and loving relationship.
Jacqueline, a humanitarian and entrepreneur who is starting her own business called Pack Mentality (stemmed from her love of dogs and animal rights), and Matthew, the CEO and Founder of the luxury shoe line Del Toro, met exactly as fate wanted it. However, it wasn’t until two years later that their paths crossed again. And well, the rest is history.
Aside from the fact that they are both blessed with impeccable genes, it is their mutual respect for one another’s talents and dreams that binds them. And with both of their careers taking off, we couldn’t think of a better couple that shows the importance of laughter, love, and of course, companionship.
COUPLES WE LOVE | JACQUELINE KIRSTEIN & MATTHEW CHEVALLARD
Every couple has a story… What’s yours?
Matthew: The story is pretty simple. We were at a small restaurant with other friends and Jacqueline and I were seated at separate tables, but we were facing one another. I fell in love with her that day and then two years later we were formally introduced at a dinner by a mutual friend. He wouldn’t give me her number though – he said I could figure it out myself.
Each of you has such a busy schedule. How do you find time for being together?
M: It’s about love and companionship with Jacqueline. She is an incredible person to have in your life. Having separate interests and opinions and still always being a part of one another’s life is such a good sign to me.
J: We just don’t feel the same without the other one there. We want to get things accomplished and it’s important to each one of us to have the other one there. It’s rather simple, if Matt wants me there, I’m going to do my best to be there. I know that creative minds need stimulation so I never try to interfere with his desire to travel. Since we have both had our own agendas over the course of our relationship, whether it be the maturation of Del Toro or me working vigorously on obtaining my masters, it became really obvious to us both that our journey together and individually wouldn’t be enjoyable unless the other person was there, so making time doesn’t really exist and thus we try to live our lives in sync.
What do you both do to recharge?
J: Disappearing together….. preferably with our dogs…. by beach or pool or barbecuing at our house, maybe deep in magazines or something surrounding good food.
What’s your perfect Date Night?
J: Date night is the same way we recharge. We recharge through being together work-free, surrounded by our dogs and good food. But a perfect date… I’m not so sure about… it’s really just anytime we’re together laughing in leisure – pressure-free and stress-free. I have to say that the perfect times together… are… well they’re just chill. (Despite the appearances and parties and fashion.) We don’t have like one particular hobby we share, it’s all of them really. It’s just about hanging out together.
M: We find enjoyment in the most simple things, like our dogs, or silly chatchkis like little ornaments. Our relationship is not about big epic moments… it’s the simple day-to-day things that just make everything enjoyable.
How would you say you compliment each other, or balance each other out?
M: We try to provide each other with reassurance. When you feel supported and loved you feel confident to make decisions and to create and be innovative.
How do you inspire each other?
M: I think we inspire each other best by simply having each others back no matter what. We also think very differently so we are constantly surprising each other with a thought that just wouldn’t come naturally to the other…it’s cool… and always refreshing.
Favorite moment together?
M: We have had a lot in the past 5 years. I think the time I spent with Jacqueline and my father, memories having to do with the two of them. Even when he got ill, she made him smile somehow. If she couldn’t make him smile, she would make the dogs make him smile. It is also during the maturation of Del Toro. Her master’s degree, I hate to admit, has come in handy.
J: I really love when we talk about the the first time we saw each other at that restaurant 2 years before we started dating… a true testament to our relationship… we were drawn to each other then… and are drawn to each other now. That’s why it’s also why we fluidly find ourselves being a part of one another’s time and plans. And I love just hanging out with him. When we’re happy and next to each other, it’s just always fun…and funny.
What is your favorite thing about each other?
J: For me I love that he’s scared of the water (sorry babe). I don’t know… it’s just really endearing to see him adorably vulnerable in the ocean. Oh, and he says what everyone is thinking and not saying and bursts out laughing every time. That gets me every time.
M: Her laugh is incredibly and insanely infectious.
One of the reasons I love doing these segments is because, despite what the facade might look like or how glamorous a couple may seem, each relationship has a significant message. And after becoming friends with Jacqueline and learning about her journey with Matthew, I learned once again that it is not the parties or the shows that make a relationship fun, but rather the fact that they are best friends and that the nights out are just as fun as their mellow time decompressing together.
So, although they are both extremely busy pursuing their dreams and businesses, this couple believes that regardless of time or place, support and companionship is most important in making a relationship work. Because after all is said and done, these two always remember that, at the end of the day, they are just as much best friends as they are two souls in love.
If you haven’t done so already, check out Del Toro’s new store on Mercer Street in New York and look out for Jacqueline’s new line, Pack Mentality, coming soon!
Thank you both for sharing your story with us!
Photos via: Jacqueline Kirstein and Matthew Chevallard and GQ